normalcy! ( is that even a word?!)

iv been out now, officially, for like 6 months or so... and the question that most people ask me is if i would be, (please note the very annoying future tense) the guy or the girl in a relationship..

iv never quite understood this question

its a GAY relationship... there are no girls!

i think its a persons last desperate attempt to normalize it.. to be able to fathom a gay relationship they would assume there must be a 'woman' and a 'man' in it..

here are 3 misnomers i would like to clear:

1. one guy is bound to be more effeminate than the other. that doesn't mean hes the girl.

2. if the guy who decides to stay home and take care of the kids is called the woman you are probably the biggest sexist i have ever met!

3. each person would have their own view on what a man and a woman would represent in a relationship, hence the 'man' and 'woman' in a gay relationship would be highly ambiguous!



well.. now that that's been said!